Change Your Story and Change Your Life

Not too long ago, I made self-care my number one priority. I believed if I was stronger mentally, emotionally, and physically I could do everything better. I allowed myself to dream. I encouraged myself to dream bigger.


I gave myself the grace and the space to learn what makes me tick, what makes me happy, sad, moves me, makes me want to turn away or go inside, makes me laugh, and what is fun.


I traveled, made new friends, had romances, tried new activities, learned, lost old friends, went deeper spiritually, saw poverty, dealt with physical limitation, spent time alone, became concerned about consumerism, and experienced the joy of being in the moment.


Until then, for as long as I could remember I’d had a mental battle in which I was always telling myself I wasn’t in the right place. It caused me to rush and not enjoy my life. When I was checking email for work, for example, at the same time I’d be feeling I should be meditating instead.


Or I’d be at yoga and I’d tell myself, “I’m such a slacker, I should be spending these hours working.”


I could never win, and I was doing it to myself.


Does this sound familiar? Are you sabotaging yourself in a similar way?


As an entrepreneur I am totally responsible for my time. I was always in the wrong place doing the wrong thing. Until I realized that was just a story I was telling myself.


Who said I was in the wrong place? I did. Who said I was doing the wrong thing? I did.


What stories are you telling yourself?


Dr. Joe Dispenza, the author of Becoming Supernatural, at Hay House Live in Toronto said, “The moment you make a different choice, get ready.”


This is when your life will change.


If you want to change, if you want to be different or have a different experience, then you have to change. You have to do something different to get a different result.


I made a different choice. That story I was telling myself about never being in the right place at the right time had to go away.


What story are you telling yourself that’s keeping you stagnant? Or worse, what excuse are you telling yourself that’s keeping you from spreading your wings? There are no limitations. Only possibilities.


I started telling myself, “There is plenty of time for everything important.” I’m a raving fan of “Einstein time.” I stopped saying “I should be doing this” or I should be somewhere else” and created a new story. It went like this: I am exactly where I need to be right now. There is plenty of time. Everything important will happen.


I began doing the work.

Meditating daily.


I actually changed my thoughts. First, I had to become aware of my beliefs and patterns. Then I replaced negative thoughts with positive, empowering affirmations.

I visualized.

I reminded myself each day what I had “won” at.

When I got anxious or worked up, I took three deep breaths. If I got emotionally charged about something, I took a walk. If I was afraid of something, I asked myself what that fear was really about.

I began my day saying 5 things I am grateful for.

I had difficult conversations. I asked for permission to have these difficult conversations before having them. This has a way of getting someone’s attention, by the way. It also allows you to be vulnerable, which in turn creates a safe space for the person you are talking to, to also be vulnerable. In vulnerability, there is compassion. In compassion, there is love. In love, there are solutions.


The best thing about all this is that it’s a practice. You don’t have to be good at any of it. What matters is that you do it.


The space created in these practices is stillness. That is where the answers are.  Over time, with more practice, the more you will get know how your body, heart, and mind connect to take you to a calm, relaxed state.


With more practice you’ll be able to go to that place on demand. When you make decisions from your highest emotional state, do you have better results? Chances are, yes.


Creating the new, empowering story I am exactly where I need to be right now. There is plenty of time. Everything important will happen coupled with making self-care my number one priority did lead to higher quality interactions and more productive work. But the biggest benefit was the one I didn’t see coming: happiness.


The key that unlocks the door to happiness is knowing yourself. Give yourself access.

Holly Morphew, AFC® is personal finance expert, coach, writer, and speaker based in Denver, CO. She is the CEO + Founder of Financial Impact, a specialized financial coaching practice that helps career-driven entrepreneurs and professionals create personal wealth and financial independence. She is the author of Simple Wealth, a #1 best-seller in wealth management, personal transformation, real estate, and women & business. Holly began teaching personal finance in 2006 as a service project with Rotary International, and received the prestigious “Rotarian of the Year” award for her work in financial literacy. As an Accredited Financial Counselor® with the AFCPE, Holly has also been recognized for “Bridging the Gap” for outstanding work in private practice. Her philosophy, “abundance is our natural state” is the core of Financial Impact programs, which help clients bridge behavior and mindset to realize their potential. In addition to personal wealth building, Holly also helps clients start and scale businesses and create new streams of income.

Hi! I’m Holly, the founder of Financial Impact and an award-winning financial coach. I help career-driven leaders and entrepreneurs create wealth, take the stress out of managing money, and feel confident and powerful when it comes to their finances.

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